Young Relationships - Ranting

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To anyone reading this months down the line, the response is either; this is where it went downhill. Or, look how well he's doing now. But on that topic, that's one thing that has always intrigued me. What happens to the views of the people who just look at your page, but not a particular post, are they counted? Maybe some smart person knows and can tell me below. On another note, last August post for this, my blog crazy month. -_- So lets end it with a good old rant. Before, I start, I should say; these are rants and may contain few facts, just opinions and theories.

 - So, who here wants your opinion, NO-ONE !!
 - Actually, once again, you're right. But I'll do it anyway
 - Why?
 - YOLO
 - Oh God. You didn't just do that, did you?

Well, OK. Maybe that was quite a poor joke, but we joke to please people. Many of you reading will know what it means to make others happy, unless you're REALLY socially awkward, in which I sympathise. But many of us please others for an ulterior motive, such as to form an attachment. We do it to find someone we can call 'ours' and to spend time and resources on for the benefit of something as superficial as happiness.

Well maybe that's quite a cynical way to look at relationships, but the point remains, considering the cliche of high school relationships and their extremely low score rate for marriage, why go through so much mess. What is the prize?

As I've discussed in previous rants, humans are logical creatures. If you want as little as mess as possible then you pick an arranged marriage. After all you spend minimal money and effort. Arranged marriages also give you security as you know your future, allowing you to plan and build around it, after all, as I've said before, humans crave security. Moreover; it may be better for many financially. As it allows poorer families to benefit from the class system and allow other families to secure their assets and build bonds, which creates a stronger, more financially tied community. So, as long as you ignore the recent news on families being exploited, their seems little wrong with it, especially in the modern western world.

So the question remains, why not? What is the prize? Because, if the answer is to get more experience, then that is rendered pointless with the arranged marriage point. So the only option seems to be for happiness. But why, the other option seems logical. Could it be that humans crave risk, or is this yet another example of humans being driven by natural instinct. If that is the case though, what is to be gained. To those over the age of consent, they might argue the obvious. But, is this really all there is.

I keep mentioning that humans crave security, but maybe, in its own sense that's what High School relationships create. Many teens are more stressed now in school than they were many years ago and as a result, maybe having a partner gives you support. Unlike an arranged marriage, where you are making future security but not getting any now, think of it like an investment. In the same way that humans are stronger together, thus leading the point why young people often have many relationships, so they are in an almost constant feeling of caring and security. Then again, that also looks like I'm defending girls who move from one partner to another.

As a socially awkward person, this has always seemed odd to me. Why can't a human feel as secure in a group as a person in a relationship. One thing that I've heard before is that the loneliest people give the best advice because their innocent view of love hasn't been tainted by failed relationships. While that may seem weird, it would explain why many want to a relationship so early in life, as to back up their theories and to experiment. If we word it like that, we could say love isn't much different to wanting to try drugs; to see what the fuss was about.

Lets end this on a high note though. High School romances allow people to form attachments that will be useful within the workplace and create bonds with people in friendships. But maybe this should be answered on a personal note. I'm a person who has enjoyed friend groups but no close relationships, however I am someone who has enjoyed many imaginary relationships with people (I know, how sad). However; is there method in my madness. Using imaginary relationships, I feel happiness on top of my groups security, all I need is my imagination (not in that way though - stupid dirty minded people). Then again, I'd be lying if not, like the young kids, I wonder about an actual relationship and whether it will live up to my innocent expectations.

Thank you if you read it all, if you didn't, I don't blame you.

Don't ever be afraid to be yourself

-|CJ|-